I’ve been a stay-at-home mom now since December 2006. Count the years, folks. That’s almost 9 years. I never planned to stay home with the kids. It just sort of happened. I also didn’t consider how hard it would be to get back in the rat race.
Friends who kept working after having children made it look so easy. It could also be because they didn’t stay home as long as I have. Some didn’t like being home. Others had to go back to work to help with household finances. Some went back to work and hated their jobs. Others are telling me to stay home.
But now that I have both kids at the same school full time, I am feeling the need/desire to return to work….and bring home a paycheck. My student loans don’t care that I am a SAHM and it’s no longer fair to my husband to have to pay them. The agreement when I decided to stay home was that I would get paid the same time he gets paid and it’s worked just fine for the most part. I never wanted to be that wife who had to ask her husband for money. However, he has since left the law firm life and now works in-house as an attorney and his pay has changed. That law firm money was yummy, but I rarely saw my husband. Now I see my husband more, but he’s working just as hard for less money.
I sit back and watch my friends who are in various fields. Finance Mom returned to work this year and found a job 15 minutes from home working under her boss who she probably babysat decades ago. School Counselor Mom hates her job, but she has to work. Teacher Mom tells me not to go back to work because your job won’t care when there are snow days and your kids have to stay home. Brand Manager Mom has very little time for anything not family related these days. Human Resources Mom is always tired. Lawyer Mom is always cancelling play dates and lunches because there is never enough time for anything.
I read here that very few people will care that you were a SAHM for years. We think it’s a badge of honor while others may see you as a liability. Remember that executive who has since become a mother apologizing to moms? How many others are out there like her? Scheduling a meeting at 4:30 p.m. will probably send me into a tizzy. This is why we, moms, have to take matters into our own hands. Start our own businesses. Be our own boss. Set our own schedules. Call the shots.
Two snaps for that one, right?
I’m on the fence about moving forward with my own business and working for someone else. The ideal situation is to work remotely and/or go into the office a few days during the week. Thus far, I have interviewed with a mom-friendly company but have yet to hear back from them. Not a good sign. Or is it?